One of the nice things about facebook is you get to know where your friends are at the moment. By this I do not mean where they are physically at but how they are doing in their life or what they are experiencing at the moment.
An hour ago a friend of mine wrote as her status message the line “Nothing hurts more than realizing he meant everything to you and you meant nothing to him.” I feel for her because I know she is the type who really gives her all when she falls in love.
Sometimes we meet people who really make us go all out without emotions. Sometimes they consciously do things to make us really give our all but there are also instances when they do things which invoke the same effect without really intending to. I don’t know which is more painful because for me, either way we can get really hurt. So what do we do to protect ourselves?
I think the best thing to do is to prevent us from giving everything. It is for our own protection if we keep something for ourselves. But what do we keep, you might ask. For me it is definitely not love. We should love fully. It is the right thing to do. We should not hold back on loving. What we should keep is our dignity. We can keep this by not being to OA with the way we give our love. For example, I know of people who think that to show their love to another person they lavish them with gifts. You do not need to be a ‘sugar mommy’ or ‘sugar daddy’ just to show that you care. Don’t tell me you give gifts freely so you can’t be considered a ‘sugar mommy’ or ‘sugar daddy’. At the end of the day you still look as such. Also, I know of people who ‘stalks’ the person they love. They call every time. They visit every time. By doing this you will look desperate. You will look like a dog following his master. You don’t want that for sure. And lastly, I know there are people who give their whole being as an expression of their love. I do not think I need to explain this further. You know what I mean.
At the end of the day, if you give your all, you will not have anything left if that person decides to ignore you or dump you. It is like putting out all your money in one business. If your business fails, you won’t have anything to start with again. Think about it.
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