insecurity...

why are you so insecure?
you graduated from a good school?
you have a good job?
you have had your share of promotions?

you have money?

these are things that should give you some amount of confidence. these things should assure you that you can do it. these things should assure you that you are good such that you don't have to always compete with others just to prove yourself.

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in my opinion insecurity develops as we grow up...

examples:
1. family of girl is not rich...she does not get to buy nice clothes and shoes like her other classmates...when she grows up and starts earning money, she buys signature clothes...seems okay, right?...the problem is she does not just wear those nice clothes to look good bu to look better than her colleagues or friends...she may or may not be intentionally doing it but she is competing with them...
2. a boy gets good grades...he becomes part of the honors list but never makes it to the top...he knows he is doing his best so he feels bad because his efforts never seem enough to make it to number 1...at first he either feels he is doing something wrong or there is something he is still not doing but should be doing...nothing wrong with that...but he cant find that something...this leads him to resent the others who seem to have discovered that something that he still fails to unearth...as he grows and enter college problem becomes bigger because he fails to get in to the school that he thinks is where all the bright ones study...this makes his hatred towards those who are better than him more pronounced...he always competes with them...he likes to look at the things that they do so that when they commit mistakes he can have something to use against them...
3. a girl grows up with an older sister and a younger brother...dad likes her older sister very much...mom likes the youngest so much...she feels sad because she does not get the same attention as her other siblings...she tries her best to get noticed but to no avail....she feels depressed....then she because envious of the two...she tries her best to compete with them...then she grows up and enter into a relationship...she always feel her boyfriend is fooling around...she gets jealous all the time....

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these are issues that should be handled by parents early on...parents sensitive to the needs of their children will notice these signs....they make ways to address them...they give them assurances so they will feel assured...complete...confident...when these issues are not addressed early they become bigger...and the feeling of insecurity could he really consume ones whole being and this could lead him to do really bad things...

examples of possible consequences
1. could lead to stealing to money just so he or she could buy nice things
2. could lead to entering jobs like drug dealing or prostitution just to have money
3. inventing stories about others to put them down
4. cheating in exams
5. having several boyfriends/girlfriends at the same time to feel loved
6. entering into adulterous relationships
7. ....murder

again, to prevent these things from happening, kids should be given enough love by their parents...parents are responsible for making the children secured in all aspects of their lives....

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