We will all reach a certain point in our lives where we will ask if we are in the right place or not. We will, at that point, begin to wonder if what we are doing are the the things we should be doing and the people we are with the right people we should be with. This point is not necessarily a point where we are depressed or the time when we are at a loss as many would probably think. You see, many people assume that when we begin to ask such questions we are in a state of confusion or we are in a dilemma. Even when we are happy or at the very least contented, we can still wonder if we are doing the right thing.s As to why this happen, I really do not know but I have some things in mind that may answer the question. Some of them I have felt while the others are just fruits of my imagination.
One possible reason is the loss of excitement in the things that we do. When you are sad, naturally there is no excitement. When you are contented there could also be no excitement because everything could be just, ah, plain or flat? I think there could also be the absence of excitement even when you are happy. It is possible that the excitement is just brought about by the same things so what could be exciting about that?, right
Another reason is seeing how others are doing. Sometimes we tend to compare what we have or what we have achieved with that of others. It is easy to fall into this trap because it is but natural for people to feel envious of others once in a while. I mean you may be contented with your car but when you see a yellow sports car you probably cannot help yourself but say wow! Yeah, you may call that just admiration but I know somewhere in your mind, you are thinking it would be good if you could have one too. But you don't need to admit that, really!
Then there are the questions that people around you throw at you. What is that again? I'm sure you have attended family reunions. During family reunions, it is not uncommon to hear questions like "when are you going to get married?", "don't you have children yet?" or "do you have your own house now?". Or when you meet up with your college buddies after not seeing them for a long time you will possibly hear questions like "when are you going to introduce us to your partner?" or "where did you park your car?". Most probably those questions were asked with no maliscious intent but they could surely make you examine your life.
Another one would be remembering an old dream that you thought you have already outgrown. Say you grew up wanting to be a doctor (to help cure the sick as many kids would say). Then in high school you realized that biology and chemistry are just too hard for you so you decided to go into journalism or philosophy instead. Now you are wondering what your life would have been if you did not change your plans.
What ever your reason is for examining your life now, it is important to really think hard and have some serious discernment because it is not yet too late to make some changes. You see you can take detours at 20, 30, 40, 50 or even 60.
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