Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we cannot do anything but wait. We are left with no better choice but to stay where we’re at and wait for whatever is going to happen next.
For example you arrive at the airport late and you miss your flight. You cannot do anything but wait for the next available flight and hope that it is not yet fully booked or wish that one of the passengers will also be late or will not show up. Well, waiting is not really the only choice left here. You can actually opt to just leave the airport and forget about leaving entirely. But if you do that you will never be able to do what you actually set out to do. Or you can take the boat or the bus. But that will definitely take you longer.
Here is another example. You applied for a job and the last person who interviewed you told you the line “Do not call us, we will call you”. Here you are also not left with any other choice but to wait. You cannot call them everyday to follow up your application status because if you do that they might get annoyed with you and reject you. You can actually look for other jobs while waiting but if you are really bent on getting this job, your only recourse is to wait for their call.
Here’s another one. You finally find the person whom you feel you are going to love for the rest of your life. Unfortunately you find out that it is not yet possible. Either he or she is not yet available or your situation is such that you cannot be together yet (he or she is still not ready, he or she is still too young, he or she is still busy with other concerns, etc). You cannot do anything but wait for him or her to be available (i.e. break-up with his or her present partner -- tsk, tsk…wag ganon) or wait for the situation to clear up for the both of you.
Sometimes waiting can be too tiring. Doing nothing can really be a pain in the butt. But if you think that what you are waiting for is really the best thing for you then go for it. It is always better to wait than to settle for the second best. The danger here, though, is that there is a possibility that you are waiting for nothing. But if that happens, do not despair. That just means that what you were waiting for which you thought was the best was not really the right one for you. Drop it! Come to think of it, if this happens, the second best now becomes the ‘real’ best, right?
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
on loving too much
One of the nice things about facebook is you get to know where your friends are at the moment. By this I do not mean where they are physically at but how they are doing in their life or what they are experiencing at the moment.
An hour ago a friend of mine wrote as her status message the line “Nothing hurts more than realizing he meant everything to you and you meant nothing to him.” I feel for her because I know she is the type who really gives her all when she falls in love.
Sometimes we meet people who really make us go all out without emotions. Sometimes they consciously do things to make us really give our all but there are also instances when they do things which invoke the same effect without really intending to. I don’t know which is more painful because for me, either way we can get really hurt. So what do we do to protect ourselves?
I think the best thing to do is to prevent us from giving everything. It is for our own protection if we keep something for ourselves. But what do we keep, you might ask. For me it is definitely not love. We should love fully. It is the right thing to do. We should not hold back on loving. What we should keep is our dignity. We can keep this by not being to OA with the way we give our love. For example, I know of people who think that to show their love to another person they lavish them with gifts. You do not need to be a ‘sugar mommy’ or ‘sugar daddy’ just to show that you care. Don’t tell me you give gifts freely so you can’t be considered a ‘sugar mommy’ or ‘sugar daddy’. At the end of the day you still look as such. Also, I know of people who ‘stalks’ the person they love. They call every time. They visit every time. By doing this you will look desperate. You will look like a dog following his master. You don’t want that for sure. And lastly, I know there are people who give their whole being as an expression of their love. I do not think I need to explain this further. You know what I mean.
At the end of the day, if you give your all, you will not have anything left if that person decides to ignore you or dump you. It is like putting out all your money in one business. If your business fails, you won’t have anything to start with again. Think about it.
An hour ago a friend of mine wrote as her status message the line “Nothing hurts more than realizing he meant everything to you and you meant nothing to him.” I feel for her because I know she is the type who really gives her all when she falls in love.
Sometimes we meet people who really make us go all out without emotions. Sometimes they consciously do things to make us really give our all but there are also instances when they do things which invoke the same effect without really intending to. I don’t know which is more painful because for me, either way we can get really hurt. So what do we do to protect ourselves?
I think the best thing to do is to prevent us from giving everything. It is for our own protection if we keep something for ourselves. But what do we keep, you might ask. For me it is definitely not love. We should love fully. It is the right thing to do. We should not hold back on loving. What we should keep is our dignity. We can keep this by not being to OA with the way we give our love. For example, I know of people who think that to show their love to another person they lavish them with gifts. You do not need to be a ‘sugar mommy’ or ‘sugar daddy’ just to show that you care. Don’t tell me you give gifts freely so you can’t be considered a ‘sugar mommy’ or ‘sugar daddy’. At the end of the day you still look as such. Also, I know of people who ‘stalks’ the person they love. They call every time. They visit every time. By doing this you will look desperate. You will look like a dog following his master. You don’t want that for sure. And lastly, I know there are people who give their whole being as an expression of their love. I do not think I need to explain this further. You know what I mean.
At the end of the day, if you give your all, you will not have anything left if that person decides to ignore you or dump you. It is like putting out all your money in one business. If your business fails, you won’t have anything to start with again. Think about it.
Monday, June 7, 2010
a major change
now that the election fever is over this blogsite will take on a new look...starting today you will read blogs that are not solely related to politics...what you will read here are blogs that are based on what i see around, what i hear from people close to me or what my crazy imagination can conjure....
i'll start with a short post that you can interpret any way you want...bahala na kayo....here it goes.....
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I have a friend who once told me that she is happy being single and that she has no plans of changing her status in the near future. She told me she is happy because being single is less complicated than being attached to someone. This is quite understandable because when you get involved with somebody you have to make a lot of adjustments. There are certain things that you enjoy that you cannot do anymore.
Unfortunately, fate can really be playful at times. Just when you thought that you are already decided on staying single, you meet somebody who will tempt you to break that resolve. When you meet that person, what is the right thing to do? Do you give in? Do you take the risk? Do you turn your back? Do you walk away?
i'll start with a short post that you can interpret any way you want...bahala na kayo....here it goes.....
......
I have a friend who once told me that she is happy being single and that she has no plans of changing her status in the near future. She told me she is happy because being single is less complicated than being attached to someone. This is quite understandable because when you get involved with somebody you have to make a lot of adjustments. There are certain things that you enjoy that you cannot do anymore.
Unfortunately, fate can really be playful at times. Just when you thought that you are already decided on staying single, you meet somebody who will tempt you to break that resolve. When you meet that person, what is the right thing to do? Do you give in? Do you take the risk? Do you turn your back? Do you walk away?
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